I have a 5 year old son and a 5 month old daughter. My son was born in a hospital and my daughter was born at home.
Throughout the day my OB appeared, did cervical checks and disappeared. When she finally came and stayed I breathed a sigh of relief as I realized I was almost there. As my husband watched, after 20 hours of labor, I did finally give birth just before 10pm. My son came out screaming and I tore. When I asked my OB how much, she said something about it being a normal amount of tearing…whatever that means! My son was immediately weighed and tested and within a matter of minutes he was placed on my chest and we were both able to relax.
I was content with my hospital birth – but I didn’t have anything else to compare it to.
Since my dream of giving birth in a birthing center wasn’t feasible, I was glad I found Amanda. Amanda gave me lots of great advise and I drafted a birth plan – I wanted to have a natural birth – just like I did the first time. During my second meeting with Amanda, I realized that having a natural birth with limited interventions by medical staff would be challenging in Myrtle Beach. And that I would have to fight for it. We ended up discussing home births and something just clicked…all of a sudden I realized that that was the answer!
When the water tub was ready I was eager to get in. It definitely provided some comfort. Amanda was so supportive as well. Everyone was pouring water on my belly while I was contracting. It helped. After laboring for a little while, I felt a pop – my water had broken. Shortly after that Nicole suggested my husband get in the tub with me. It was beautiful to be able to share the birth tub experience with him. Afterwards, he said it really connected him so much more to this birth.
The pushing phase of this labor was so much easier than with my son. Of course it was difficult, but I felt the urge to push this time. The water took the sting out of it and I was so pleased to find out afterwards that I didn’t tear. During my sons birth I was quiet. During this one however, I was quite vocal. I think that simply being in my own home made me more relaxed and gave me the freedom to do what came naturally.
After 12 hours of labor, I gave birth to my daughter just before 4pm. I was on my knees with my arms wrapped around my husband and screaming into his ear. I didn’t realize it at the time, but her umbilical cord was wrapped around her neck. Nicole said she simply unravelled it. After she was born we pulled her up between us and I laid back – relieved. She was so calm. It was beautiful. My parents arrived less than 5 minutes after she was born – it was impeccable timing – they had just driven for 4 hours from Hilton Head.
My midwife and doula were both very caring and helped me tremendously after the birth. There was no urgency to cut the cord which was so nice. It allowed some time for everything to sink in…to realize that we were now two and not one. I had some hemorrhaging and intense cramping and I was quite uncomfortable for a little while after giving birth, but Nicole handled it with expertise and care. Once that passed she helped my husband bathe me. Amanda was sweet and knew just what I needed and prepared me a snack.
in the end, I have two beautiful children.